Trump is a narcissist.
Individuals with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) display the following symptoms:
- Grandiosity with expectations of superior treatment by others.
- Fixated on fantasies of power, success, intelligence, attractiveness, etc.
- Self-perception of being unique, superior, and associated with high-status people and institutions.
- Needing constant admiration from others.
- Sense of entitlement to special treatment and to obedience from others.
- Exploitative of others to achieve personal gain.
- Unwilling to empathize with others’ feelings, wishes, or needs.
- Intensely jealous of others and the belief that others are equally jealous of them.
- Pompous and arrogant demeanor.
Trump checks every box. Every professional psychologist I have spoken to has told me in private that Trump is unquestionably a narcissist.
Some people think that narcissists don’t care about being ignored because of the large number of people who seem to worship them but that’s completely wrong.
If rejection hurts a normal person a bit, then it kills a narcissist! Narcissists became the way they are because of the shame they suffered from earlier in their lives.
You might wonder what would make a narcissist feel ashamed? After all he seems to have everything! In fact, a narcissist feels ashamed of being himself and that’s why he does his best to hide his defects by striving for superiority.
How the narcissist is born
If a child was abused at childhood or neglected in such a way that made him ashamed of who he is then he will try to cope with that shame in the best available way. Some people will become socially withdrawn while others will choose the other defense mechanism which is becoming narcissists.
A narcissist will start exaggerating his own importance and would stop listening to anyone who tries to point out his flaws.
That’s why ignoring a narcissist hurts him so much. It’s because the act of ignoring him is seen as an attempt to devalue his exaggerated worth!
When you ignore a narcissist, you remind him of his childhood shame and that’s why rejection hurts him badly.
Ignoring them turns their own mind on themselves
It is because they are the main person in their life, and they have the attitude of being better than you. It forces the narcissist to re-think. Thus, one of the best ways to handle the narcissist is to not engage at all.
Narcissists are difficult to deal with, whether as friends or as politicians. They do not feel the need to build consensus, which is why most are screened out by democratic systems of government. In Trump’s case, he came into Politics having never served in any prior political office. This is the only way a narcissist can get to high office with out being screened out in advance.
This is what makes him so dangerous. Given his psychological state, it’s very clear the only way Iran cam make it through this crisis, is to simply ignore Trump.
It should make Trump, and therefore the U.S. completely re-think its approach to Iran and Iranians!